Hi! I've got so many questions

Hi Cass! Sorry to hear about your sis. But remember its not all doom & gloom. I don't know where to start. I lost my twin sister to breast cancer November 2012 and experienced many things with her along the way. She was amazing and always just rolled with it. Only 34 at diagnosis, she didn't save any eggs as time was pushing for treatment to start. Instead she took a tablet to protect the ovaries whilst she had chemo. Re: hair. She bit the bullet and donated her long locks to the alopecia foundation so they could make a wig for someone. She borrowed a wig from the cancer council (free), a cute little blonde bob. Later she preferred stretchy type turban headband things as she found the wigs hot to wear. These come in great colours from "starkles". A fabulous program is the "look good feel good". Look into it!!! She also had a single mastectomy thru the private system with reconstruction commenced at the time of her operation. I have also been diagnosed with breast cancer (nov 2012).. Double mastectomy on my 37th birthday (went thru private system). My recon also done at the same time. They leave tissue expanders insitu and slowly inflate them over weeks to a desired size, allowing your pec muscle and skin to stretch. Then a smaller second operation to replace the expanders with an implant is done some months later. I'm currently waiting to have my implants. My boobs (tissue expanders) look great, tho hard and feel alien as I lost sensation. By having it all done swiftly has made me feel better about my appearance. I had a total of 8 lymph nodes taken... All clear. And potentially need my ovaries out. I have kids so that doesn't worry me. Button up shirts, pj shirts etc made it much easier after the operation. Also stretchy type shorts, pants as her mastectomy arm will be weak and cause pain initially when she tries to pull up her own pants. I couldn't sleep in a bed for a month.. Usually a tummy sleeper and due to double mastectomy pain couldnt even slightly turn to my side to sleep. Was like a turtle on its back... completely stuck.. he he. So i slept in a recliner chair. Private system she will be outta pocket no doubt as I was but it allowed me to have my operation less than a week after my diagnosis. this gave me great comfort. hope I haven't overwhelmed u at all. I wish her and you all the best. Don't hesitate to contact me. Jodi