I think you'll find a balance.
Me, personally? I have gone with the attention to making memories and not sweating the big stuff. At the same time my kids have learned they can't always participate in things they want, and that I'm not always well enough to be their taxi, housekeeper and even mother at times.
My husband is still learning that I'm not an ox that just keeps on going anymore (not that I haven't tried). When your body needs to rest it needs to rest. I got sick over Easter with a bug and ended up in hospital...which sucked as I really don't like hospitals much these days.
It's hard to keep the morbid thoughts at bay, but we've got to give it a red hit go.
Lisa xx