I am So sorry to see you join our exclusive club and the cruel double diagnosis, @Ekay - you will still be in shock too xx. As @wendy55 says - this shitty disease IS manageable & virtually considered a ‘chronic’ disease …. And it actually mucks with your brain even more than your body :( So NEVER be afraid to ask for help xx
Check out Charlotte Tottman’s podcast here - it has a wealth of information and as a cancer psychologist. - she has BEEN thru breast cancer herself, so knows EXACTLY what we’ve all been thru & are still going tru, even after active treatment finishes!
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/23866/podcast-series-upfront-about-breast-cancer-what-you-don-t-know-until-you-do-with-dr-charlotte-to#latestFeel free to put up any queries/questions and hopefully we’ll be able to help you xx. And Definitely record your team meetings on your phone, as it is easy to become distracted on one comment & miss the next ….
I hope you have lots of family & friends stepping up to the plate and giving you lots of support & love, as you let them know xx. And you don’t need to tell EVERYONE in the early stages - some of my extended family didn’t find out til 12 months later ….
And Don’t forget you can talk to our help line too xx 1800500258
When you have a few minutes spare, please check out this post - as we have lots of ‘stuff’ to show & do as well as the serious things - your pets, gardens, even cool recipes …… and the ‘tick sheets’ that @cranky_granny mentioned are down the bottom, to self assess yourself (and take the sheets with you to your team meetings as it is often easier giving it to them, than talking about it.). We even have a couple of really fun posts too, as we all need a laugh. Xx. Feel free to add any of your own comments on any of the links, too.
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/23477/a-big-welcome-to-all-our-new-members#latestTake care & all the best for your ongoing appointments - if you PREFER to have the surgery (and I can fully understand why you’d choose to xx) discuss it with your surgeon & get a 2nd opinion as well, if needed xx