Oh you poor thing! I can't really say anything to help. I get a bit fed up by the absence of a thoughtful gesture or enquiry from my family from time to time. Familiarity breeds contempt I think applies here. They're living with you, and 'it', but it's not happening to them and life goes on. It's tough.
Talking to counsellors isn't for everyone. I've never been taken with it, but I am finding it very helpful now. If nothing else, talking to an interested third party gets a lot of 'stuff' out of my system.
Take care. K xox