Thanks so much everyone for all your support and helpful suggestions - I knew you'd have some ideas and I have got some great reminders from you all. Just reaching out and putting it down in words helped a lot and hearing back from this great community gives me energy to keep going and to also get over myself sometimes!! The nightly sweat fest continues but I figure if it is happening I have got a very nice ironed pile of nighties by the bed - 3 last night - oh joy but today I am laughing about it .Wishing you all well Moirac