@Annika37 I'm sorry to see you hear but glad that you've found us. Your doctor sounds like he needs to go back to school for some lessons in how to deal with people. We're all going to die - we just need to live awhile longer.
I'm not in the same situation as you but I do understand your worries about your kids. Mine are a bit older - 2 teens and an almost.
You may wish to join the Mets group and the Young Women's group. Click on the links on the side or bottom (depending on whether you're using a phone or PC). As these are private groups, you have to request to join.
Take care.