Hi Celeste, I feel your pain but I know that there will be someone similar to yourself. My good friend (met at Look Good Feel Better back in 2007). Our first diagnosis was very different but about the same time. Then I was trained as a CLO (Community Liaison Officer with BCNA) in August 2010 whilst my friend trained in Sept 2010. My friend was then diagnosed with secondary bc in her heart in November 2010 and I was diagnosed with mets in lymph node in December 2010. We do so much together - Pidgeon Pairs. Even though we don't have too much energy by ourselves, as a Team we achieve quite a bit for BCNA. I am so glad to "have" her. I hope you find your "Pidgeon Sister" My friend is quite unique. We have looked far and wide to find someone who has secondaries in the heart. We keep looking and this is what you will do. Good luck. XLeonie