I have nothing much to add to this thread except to echo @Zoffiel's comment that Australians are culturally ill prepared to talk about death. And many of us don't because we don't want to upset distressed and angry people any further. But none of us is getting out of here alive. However and whenever we go, we will go. We train people for all sorts of useful things, but not so much for relationships, parenthood or death. Which all matter so much. Getting to grips with the reality of death, as an integral part of life, is one of the best things I have got out of bc. But timing is all. And suffering is something else again.