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Old habits die hard
When am I going to learn to say no
I have to try and remember I don’t owe my employers my health/ sanity
had the scans blood test and see oncology tomorrow morning. Get an email and text from the boss can I work Friday. Instead of saying no straight up I left the answer open. After saying since last drs appointment that I was having additional scans etc and wont be working till the Monday after.
I have to try and remember I don’t owe my employers my health/ sanity
had the scans blood test and see oncology tomorrow morning. Get an email and text from the boss can I work Friday. Instead of saying no straight up I left the answer open. After saying since last drs appointment that I was having additional scans etc and wont be working till the Monday after.
For some strange reason this has got me down.
Got to really retrain my brain. To the word NO
Rant Over for now.
Rant Over for now.
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- Oh I feel for you @cranky_granny. This disease is just torture sometimes. It is hard bit you will get a plan today and it's going to help. Sending you a big virtual hug
- Nervous about tomorrow have had a tension headache all day. Had a nap this afternoon just woke up with no change. I’m obviously panicking the old heart got up at 129 and thumping away hence the nap. Got it back to 89 thankfully
my brain keeps going to the worst case scenario
been trying to keep distracted. Here's hoping i can sleep tonight.Roll on tomorrow so i can have a plan. - So sorry to read you didn't get good news @cranky_granny. They will have a plan for it. Sending love
- @cranky_granny definitely look after you first. Say no. Sending you hugs. Xxx
- xxx. Good on you & Take care, @cranky_granny
Bummer about the news - remember that we are 'with you' on this shit show xxx. - Thanks everyone
I did it rang the boss after my appointment. Which was full of bad news and said I wont be in tomorrow. And that I don't know what my future schedule will be until I get the call from the clinic. Which could be anytime over the next few weeks - Hi @GorgyS sometimes the 'spam' filter picks posts up for some reason, we let them through so may have been double up however didn't want to miss any of your message. Love seeing your support and all of the wonderful members above :)
I was wondering what happened with my messages. Seemed to me that they did not go through, and I kept sending them again. ApologiesAlthough I work for a 'good' organization, I checked my rights before requesting to work from home after six months on personal/sick leave. I like to do things by the book. All the information I found is on the BCNA website: Employers' Legal Rights and Responsibilities (bcna.org.au). I even sent this link to our HR and my manager. I politely say 'NO' when I need time off for treatments. I also requested a detailed work plan with progress updates. Seriously, how can anyone think that we would rather go for treatment than work as 'normal people'.? @cranky_granny Please say 'NO' without hesitation or feeling down because of it. I have learned this and am still learning. So far, I have great understanding by my employer.
- 100% agree with you @cranky_granny. When I was diagnosed in September last year, I had 7 months of sick leave, 3 months of LSL and 2 months of Annual leave. These are accrued through 18 years of commitment to one organization. Immediately I went on 6 months sick leave and after that requested working from home. I want to save my long service leave and annual leave for uncertainty ahead. I will retire anyway in 2 years as I will be 67. My health has been my priority for the first time in my life. I am comfortable with saying NO to my family and my employer. Their expectations can be unrealistic because I do not show always what I am going through but when needed I will tell them before I say NO. Who on earth prefers going through cancer treatment over work?
