You sound a lot like me, I have never stressed about things that are out of my control. (Although I cry at the drop of a hat watching sad or happy movies). But I have got to say, this cancer is testing my ability to stay calm. In fact, I just vented on here myself. I cried when I broke the news to my husband, when my hair fell out in clumps and on the worst days of my chemotherapy when I felt like absolute shit. I always manage to hold it together in front of my kids, like you, I want to watch my kids grow. I use humour to cope. People tell me I am handling it so well, but still waters hide strong undercurrents. Do whatever you need to do to get through it, and at some stage that crying jag might come. Probably when you least expect it. I wish you all the best, sending a virtual hug xx