I feel like Im in a catch 22 situation...
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Dear @deanneze
You mentioned you have seen a counsellor - did that provide any tools or strategies to assist you? For some people, the treatment is the hardest part, not so much the diagnosis. After the initial diagnosis shock, most of us see treatment at first as a necessary hurdle to getting rid of cancer. With a view to being ‘back to normal’. As none of us can excise the period of diagnosis and treatment from our consciousness, ‘normal’ is automatically dated. If treatment brings unexpected and very unwelcome side effects, you are in the invidious position of unable to go back and not keen about where you have landed! Many have found a good counsellor (particularly one who can see past cancer) to be very helpful. You do need to take care of yourself first as everything else worth having (including relationships) starts from knowing and liking yourself. It’s so hard, on top of everything else you have gone through, it but life after cancer can be good and can be worthwhile. Best wishes.
You mentioned you have seen a counsellor - did that provide any tools or strategies to assist you? For some people, the treatment is the hardest part, not so much the diagnosis. After the initial diagnosis shock, most of us see treatment at first as a necessary hurdle to getting rid of cancer. With a view to being ‘back to normal’. As none of us can excise the period of diagnosis and treatment from our consciousness, ‘normal’ is automatically dated. If treatment brings unexpected and very unwelcome side effects, you are in the invidious position of unable to go back and not keen about where you have landed! Many have found a good counsellor (particularly one who can see past cancer) to be very helpful. You do need to take care of yourself first as everything else worth having (including relationships) starts from knowing and liking yourself. It’s so hard, on top of everything else you have gone through, it but life after cancer can be good and can be worthwhile. Best wishes.