Bad doctor experience
So, I had an interesting appointment yesterday with a neurophysiologist. I got carpal tunnel syndrome last year after taking Letrozole, and have since changed to Arimidex. I still have tingly fingers,...
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Yep, absolutely! I couldn’t believe what was happening. He was explaining to me what it was, even though I already knew, and my questions were only was the condition better, and were there any long term effects from the surgery. I wasn’t opposed to the surgery, just wanted to know my options and recovery time. While he was still doing the test, I mentioned I wanted to know if I could avoid the surgery if the condition was better, and he asked how the symptoms were. I said much better than before, that’s why I even came to do another test. He goes don’t let anyone tell you you need surgery if your symptoms are ok. You know best, and if your symptoms don’t cause trouble then don’t have it. I said Dr C (first doc that did the test in Nov-female) told me best to do the surgery, otherwise I could lose muscle mass permanently. He cuts me off, gets annoyed and starts going off about how Dr C can’t tell me those things, then explains what it is, and tells me the same thing Dr C told me. That was when confusion first started. Then he realises I had the test before, gets old results, prob looks at my file properly for first time and tells me I should fix it, and the above conversation followed. So he went from telling me not to do it if I thought it was ok, to telling me to do it, but not directly. Geez!! There was a young lady trainee doctor there. She was putting the nodes on me and controlling the electric pulses. He kept telling her off for doing it wrong and missing a week of training. I thought, even if she could do it perfectly, she’d still stuff it up cos of him, cos he was making her nervous with his impatience. Poor girl. And poor me. I was so baffled I was speechless.
Yep, absolutely! I couldn’t believe what was happening. He was explaining to me what it was, even though I already knew, and my questions were only was the condition better, and were there any long term effects from the surgery. I wasn’t opposed to the surgery, just wanted to know my options and recovery time. While he was still doing the test, I mentioned I wanted to know if I could avoid the surgery if the condition was better, and he asked how the symptoms were. I said much better than before, that’s why I even came to do another test. He goes don’t let anyone tell you you need surgery if your symptoms are ok. You know best, and if your symptoms don’t cause trouble then don’t have it. I said Dr C (first doc that did the test in Nov-female) told me best to do the surgery, otherwise I could lose muscle mass permanently. He cuts me off, gets annoyed and starts going off about how Dr C can’t tell me those things, then explains what it is, and tells me the same thing Dr C told me. That was when confusion first started. Then he realises I had the test before, gets old results, prob looks at my file properly for first time and tells me I should fix it, and the above conversation followed. So he went from telling me not to do it if I thought it was ok, to telling me to do it, but not directly. Geez!! There was a young lady trainee doctor there. She was putting the nodes on me and controlling the electric pulses. He kept telling her off for doing it wrong and missing a week of training. I thought, even if she could do it perfectly, she’d still stuff it up cos of him, cos he was making her nervous with his impatience. Poor girl. And poor me. I was so baffled I was speechless.
In hindsight, it was very much like my experience with my first surgeon. They appear so knowledgeable and you think great, he’s gonna fix the problem. Then they tell you conflicting info and confuse you. When you try to get clarification they become impatient and cut you off. And you’re sitting there thinking what is happening and what do I do now??? When you’re in the moment, it’s quite an unpleasant experience. Something so little can leave you feeling so deflated. Bloody h*ll. They need to either change profession or start realising they’re not God. I’m tired of being made to feel stupid, scared and confused by these doctors 😠.
And yes, the ‘it will kill you long term’ comment. WHAT??? What will??? I’m pretty sure carpal tunnel is not a threat even close to that extent, so what was he referring to!? The breast ca??? 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️. My goodness, after all the psychologist sessions and self reflecting and emotional fixing and everything else, I have a neurophysiologist tell me this about the bca!!! Far out!! Talk about a punch in the guts!! Similar to the comment from my first psychologist: don’t worry, your daughter will be fine without you. She’ll move on and still have a great life. - Oh gee, thanks for that very thoughtful and encouraging comment!! Should I just give up now then?? 🤔😡🤬. Male, similar age to above doc. I don’t want to sound sexist, but I’m not having good experiences with males somewhat. Too much mansplaining, total lack of empathy, belittling, no room for suggestions etc. I’m definitely going to see someone else, as @arpie suggested I will contact my gp about an appointment with a hand specialist. This doctor was not a surgeon, but nevertheless he could have referred me to another specialist to get more info. Anyway, this became a bit of a vent. I was just so upset afterwards and it took me back to the horrible period last year. After thinking about it and reading your comments, I got angry cos you’re all right, he really wasn’t a good doctor 🤷🏼♀️. It’s good to get perspective. Thank you heaps ladies ♥️♥️♥️😘😘😘
@arpie thanks for the recommendation to
see an orthopaedic hand specialist! 👌🏻😊
@arpie thanks for the recommendation to
see an orthopaedic hand specialist! 👌🏻😊