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Margherite
12 years agoMember
im not really sure what i can add to some of th wisdon ladies have already stated. i work outside of home andI worked as much as I felt able as I found great strength in my work and support in my colleagues. it gave me structure and a reason to get out of my PJs. somedays, I was lucky enough to be able to work from home when I just couldnt do the driving. I couldnt work after chemo and my chemo didn't go for too long....max was an afternoon then it went down to 2 hours. some people I know had it all day. I had 5 months of it. ...but like our friends are saying everyone is different. listen to yourself..and . talk to the nursing staff and breast care nurse (I found I had to chase her up and then i had mrre support - the squeaky wheel gets the oil sort of philosophy...and I don't like being the squeaky wheel but it worked). I think the thing I would do differently is when people would say... is there anything I can do... I couldn't think about it and felt awful saying come vacuum my house or clean my shower. if I had to do it again I think I would TRY to say, when are you free.... or what did you have in mind... and try to then have something concrete in place. you must be a very capable woman with all you have on..... take it a day at a time.... I worried like you
wouldnt believe about everything I read in the literature and really got myself a little paralysed with fear... and looking back, I am much more casual about it all now. I was also blessed to find a local friend at the feel good look better workshop as I found the face to face support over a cuppa invaluable. what my chemo brain is trying to say is... you are not alone, you know you have the skills and gifts for this journey as you have already displayed them in other aspects of your life..... relax and use the resources around you and you will get through it. being anxious sets of chemical blockers that means we cant even access what we have already laid down.