Hi Sandycee,
don't worry about the needle phobia. It is very common and entirely understandable. LIke you I have had my fair share but wierdly I find that if I watch it going in, it is over really quickly and of course it all depends on how good the person is giving the needle. So blow the Doctor!
You will probably find that the onc nurses have the same opinion of him as well!
Use the oncology nurses if your bcn is not avaiable. There are more of them! Why not have the onc nurse there with you when the Doc starts talking. You can then clarify things with the doc and having her there will diffuse things or you can at least clarify things with her later.
Good luck thinking of you this week.