welcome to this site, it is great to ask for help, advise or just scream at the world, we will all listen and help were we can, thats what we woman do when in trouble, your not alone and we all have something to give, welcome to the sisterhood of BC. Great advise has already started but getting others to pick up and say "thanks, but Suzibees resting I'll pass on your love and support and she will ring you when she's ready, " is the best way to handle things. i had a friend ring me 3 times a day to see how I was going it got so overwhelming I had to say thanks but let me call you when i get my head around things or need help or a chat. Any friend will understand. Good luck and let the answering machine do it's job while you gain strength to face the battles ahead, a well rested person makes better decisions and fights stronger, take care, thinking of you, Kaz