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Sorry you have to join the club, but all these lovely ladies are or have been in a similar situation to you & have been a real help to me in my journey. Take their advise & keep thinking positive thoughts.

Wendy

Sorry you have to join the club, but all these lovely ladies are or have been in a similar situation to you & have been a real help to me in my journey. Take their advise & keep thinking positive thoughts.

Wendy

Hi Debbie

I don't have anything extra to add to what has been said. I know what you are going through. I had a mastectomy last July followed by chemo and radiation. At the time it was a bit sureal but now it seems a long time ago and am getting ready to go back to work in a few weeks.

Just to let you know I am thinking of you and good luck on Thursday.

Sarah x

I second what Tonya said about taking someone with you - I got myself a little notebook and would write questions in the middle of the night and then my husband was scribe during the meetings with the surgeon and also make sure we asked all of those questions that we both had come up and I'd written down.  I too found distraction a good thing.  Thinking of you.

Hi Debbie,  it is stage IIIC mainly due to the amount of lymph nodes that were cancerous 12+/20. It was in more than one spot, some invasive & other parts dcis. My grade was 1(low).

Loretta xx

Hi Debbie

That initial diagnosis is such a shock and we all deal with it so differently.  I was told at the radiologist when I had gone for a mammogram to look at a lump my GP though was fibrous - I dropped my son to kinder, went for a mammogram and by that night was in a breast surgeon's office discussing surgery and testing to see if the cancer was elsewhere in my body!  That was only 2 1/2 weeks ago and already seems like a lifetime ago.  I have had a mastectomy, axilla clearance and am booked to start chemo on 2 weeks.  I have lost weight but I am sleeping and eating a little again.  Different things become positives - it's not anywhere else, there is a treatment, outcomes are so good now, we caught it early by chance etc...  I wandered around numb for days - please be kind to yourself.  I hope the medication is helping. I too started to feel pain in my armpit in the days before my mammogram - I think this is normal if you have some lymph node involvement.  I really feel for you - this network is a wonderful place to vent and find information.  There are so many wonderful women here to support you. 

Amanda 

 Thanks Tonya,

At the momment taking valium to get through the day and sleeping pills at night . Thursday seems so far away.

   Debbie

Hi Debbie,

So sorry to hear your bad news.We all know that "sick to the stomach"feeling when you get the bc diagnosis.The first time I got diagnosed I could hardly eat and felt shaky.Once I knew the plan and I could prepare then I was abit calmer. That was 7yrs ago and I had a lumpectomy,full node clearance and radiation.It came back in the same breast and same spot last year and I had a mastectomy and chemo. It's a tough journey emotionally and physically,no matter what age.You need lots of support from your loved ones-you can't do it on your own.I'm not sure what's going on with your arm,those sort of pains are usually after your surgery- tell your doctor.The waiting and not knowing is the worst part and Thursday is a few days away.I can remember asking the chemist for an over the counter something to help me sleep until I saw my surgeon.I am here anytime you want to chat.

                                    Tonya xx

Hi Debbie,

So sorry to hear your bad news.We all know that "sick to the stomach"feeling when you get the bc diagnosis.The first time I got diagnosed I could hardly eat and felt shaky.Once I knew the plan and I could prepare then I was abit calmer. That was 7yrs ago and I had a lumpectomy,full node clearance and radiation.It came back in the same breast and same spot last year and I had a mastectomy and chemo. It's a tough journey emotionally and physically,no matter what age.You need lots of support from your loved ones-you can't do it on your own.I'm not sure what's going on with your arm,those sort of pains are usually after your surgery- tell your doctor.The waiting and not knowing is the worst part and Thursday is a few days away.I can remember asking the chemist for an over the counter something to help me sleep until I saw my surgeon.I am here anytime you want to chat.

                                    Tonya xx

 Thanks Loretta,

 What stage was your cancer and did you have it in more than one place?,

                             Debbie