Silly things people have said to you

Had a great one the other day. My 2IC at work was handing out the 'Tea money' bill -$60 for the year if you are full-time.  I have been off work for 2 1/2 Terms and she handed it to me ans said 'You may not have to pay the whole thing. I think you've been away a bit??" Now you'd think that as a Year 1 teacher the Deputy may have noticed I wasn't there!! I just walked away and cracked up laughing. So now some other colleagues are laughing with me -'Did you enjoy your tropical island? We thought you'd been missing a little..."etc Oh deary me!

I must admit that so many comments rang so many ways. I realised that we make a huge effort and put a lot of energy into 'presenting' ourselves when going out to work, shops, social things or whatever and people do say "You look well" if they can. It has me starting to answer now "Yes I look fine and am getting my energy back BUT. . I spend a lot of time resting at home and there are still many things I can't do that I thought I would be able to do again now. So. .I'm 'getting there' slowly" I often have to take a step back myself and say 'stop and look after yourself'

Often you don't think of things to say until you are back home. I don't want to tell my story to everyone who asks and after all these months I'm sure many are sick of overhearing any explanations.

And I also find myself looking at other women with the short, grey hair and sometimes we exchange a look -you can tell if it is a little nod of acknowledgment "yep -been there, best wishes" with no words said -a tiny spiritual connection in the world to help us!

Also had a friend say 'I'm joking but I wish I could have had all that time off' -and now I realised that all of us here have been having cocktails and massages on some tropical island (boy I thought it was just yukky chemo and radiation -got my facts wrong there!) -ahh ya gotta laugh!

Smiles to all :) Sue

I must admit that so many comments rang so many ways. I realised that we make a huge effort and put a lot of energy into 'presenting' ourselves when going out to work, shops, social things or whatever and people do say "You look well" if they can. It has me starting to answer now "Yes I look fine and am getting my energy back BUT. . I spend a lot of time resting at home and there are still many things I can't do that I thought I would be able to do again now. So. .I'm 'getting there' slowly" I often have to take a step back myself and say 'stop and look after yourself'

Often you don't think of things to say until you are back home. I don't want to tell my story to everyone who asks and after all these months I'm sure many are sick of overhearing any explanations.

And I also find myself looking at other women with the short, grey hair and sometimes we exchange a look -you can tell if it is a little nod of acknowledgment "yep -been there, best wishes" with no words said -a tiny spiritual connection in the world to help us!

Also had a friend say 'I'm joking but I wish I could have had all that time off' -and now I realised that all of us here have been having cocktails and massages on some tropical island (boy I thought it was just yukky chemo and radiation -got my facts wrong there!) -ahh ya gotta laugh!

Smiles to all :) Sue

I must admit i have noticed women, whilst im in a public area,  around my age with very short hair, or scarves and i wonder about cancer and send blessings...

Whilst i do get the postive outlook and saying soothing to myself; i must admit it is not helpful when people respond to asking how i am and then i get told to 'say excellant'' --there is quite a bit of pressure to be 'excellant' ; cant imagine anyone with a heart attack etc being told that postive thinking is somehow essential to the outcome! 

Whilst i do get the postive outlook and saying soothing to myself; i must admit it is not helpful when people respond to asking how i am and then i get told to 'say excellant'' --there is quite a bit of pressure to be 'excellant' ; cant imagine anyone with a heart attack etc being told that postive thinking is somehow essential to the outcome! 

Hey Viv 

I relate to that one.  Kind of like funny things people say and in our case don't say.......

Someone who was supposedly "my best friend"  lives two houses up from me.  I haven't heard from her since the day I was diagnosed.  My hubby goes in to the hardware that her husband works in and they will talk about anything like hammers, nails, chook poo, anything but never once has he even asked hubby oh by the way how is Michele.

People, you just wonder sometimes. I just think to myself oh well their loss cause I have lost nothing and gained the knowledge that she wasn't a friend worth having after all.

You just move on and don't bother to give those people the time of day.

Lots of love, Mich xoxo

Oh you'll be ok, really how the hell do you know! that one really gets to me. You look fantastic, no-one would guess you have cancer. so minimal hair, no eyebrows and dark circles under my eyes all look normal.

One of my dearests friends said 2 weeks after my kidney removal, you shouldn't still be in pain, it was just a kidney. OMG, I had a major organ removed, how long did she think it should take.

But really I understand these people do not understand and do not know what to say, I much prefer the friends that say, I don't know what to say but I wish you well!

cheers

Donna