yes I'll do the talk therapy thing now ...as I've ran out of tacks to make this work....I'll face the humiliation & shame & chat about 'ubber' confidential and personal stuff...fuzzy feeling etc ....I just wish I'd get a positive vibe from the therapists on how this will work out ...otherwise the whole event has been leading to a lonely solitary life.....or putting up with more of the same (silence treatment - which is unbearable!) I know it's just another stage, just wish the whole thing would cresendo & end, rather than have to face the reality of living alone. ho hum...back to work a cup of tea and a silent cry....