Pet peeve

Hi Ady,

As you can see, many have experienced similar feelings to what you are going through. My 20 year old son refused to discuss it and spent as much time away from me as possible. I realise now that it was how he was coping with it. He was terrified that he was going to lose his mum and he dealt with that by trying to make his life seem as normal as possible and the only way he could do that was being away from me. I had very close friends who just dropped me like a hot scone too! I think part of it is that I have always been one to cope and get on with things. I worked part time through out treatment, (I really wonder how I managed now) and I think people thought that I genuinely was doing ok. I don't like showing my vulnerabilities and very few people saw me at my worst moments. But hello!!! . I had cancer! I was having chemo, radiotherapy and herceptin infusions. How could people possibly think I was ok? I also think for some people it's just to hard to be there to watch. They can't cope with the feeling of helplessness. And yes, some people are just arses! The fact is, it needs to be all about you at the moment and no matter how painful it is or how much it hurts you, you need to surround yourself with the helpful, positive people that you need who are going to help you get through. I was speaking to a counsellor about this very thing the other day. As a community, we have become very selfish. Everyone is all about themselves  and it's not that others don't think about us but they are just caught up in the business of their own lives. Sad isn't it? it's just yet another part of this bloody process for some of us. Hang in there. Karen xox