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Hello and you have made the first step to helping yourself and your family, remember you are never alone and pop in for a chat any time. I understand how upside down your world is right now but Shirl has put you on the right path. One day at a time. You can order the "hopes and Hurdles" info pack yourself on this sight and I'm sure when your husband checks out the dvd it will help. There's also a great flyer for how friends and family can help.I hope there is a local support group in your area as we all draw from each others strengths at this confusing time. I have had a RH mastectomy, radiation and chemo. I was very "lucky" and was never sick just tired from the chemo so remember your state of mind is a powerful friend at this time. i kept telling myself i didnt have time to be sick as I had 2 kids (10 & 12yrs) and a husband that worked away so my kids kept me going and gave me strength. Your hubby sounds like he is overloading on the info a bit, we all have done that, it doesnt make it wrong, just shows how much he cares and our men feel so useless that there's nothing they can do to help. No doubt his work mates are trying to help and comfort but sometimes you have to say -stop.  Too much info just confuses, put it aside and talk to each other, breath, hug and be there for each other and when you BCNA info comes through, put the kids to bed early (if there young??)go through it together, calmly, maybe with a bottle of wine, thats what my hubby and I did and although it's a terrible time and subject it was a wonderful night ending with us having a one step at a time plan and knowing we we're there for each other all the way.  Hope this helps and be thinking of you,  Kaz