Living in the moment and "stuff"

This is so important; being able to communicate with others who are facing a similar outcome.  Instead of pretending it's not there - like the "elephant in the room" it's something that is on one's mind from time to time.  Not discussing death I think, is unhelpful to our wellbeing.

I don't think it's something that needs airing often and for me, I have faced my mortality and have accepted its inevitability but I do bring it out now and then, have a look at it (in my mind's eye) and put it away for another time.  After all, it is what it is and thinking about it constantly is counter-productive.  Life is to be lived the best way we can and focusing on things that give us enjoyment and fulfilment makes the knowledge of our illness more bearable.

I guess we cope in different ways and there is no prescribed right or wrong way and whatever works for each of us is the right way.  I think that literature that talks about life after cancer is unhelpful as once we have that secondary diagnosis, until there is a cure, there is no "äfter cancer" because we are living with cancer every day and will be until our death.

For me, it's all about enjoying every moment I have.

Love, hugs and thanks for airing this topic instead of being all sweetness and light, because we know it is not.

Maggie