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Sometimes a break and spending more time with others face to face is good for the soul and is a healthy distraction from our ongoing suffering / fears and experience of breast cancer.
Sharing your own difficulties as you have isn't moaning but can help others with the same issues not feel so isolated. I use that word moaning as it was included at one point in your title of others sharing their difficulties. I however think discussing difficulties isn't moaning but sharing. If we can't talk about these issues with other bc sisters /brothers who can we share it with? . For the most part ...in the real world...most of us put on the brave face and soldier on. It's wonderful to have a platform that we can share what's really going on behind the smile.
A few years back prior your diagnosis and joining, this site had an upgrade. There were multiple multiple groups at that time. Each group has to have people manage it...usually several. During that upgrade these groups were reduced and refined as people would join, put out a call for support and nobody checked in. At that time it was discovered if the post was put on the main forum there was support rapidly rallied for individuals.
The groups remaining are active and / or require privacy by the very need of the intimate discussion required. ie the breast reconstruction group and the lets talk vagina group. It is less about similar interests and more about the privacy aspect.
Individual threads however by there nature attract individuals of similar personality and experience. Sometimes there aren't many comments as people don't have the experience to share or know the words to comfort. However writing about your experiences can be therapeutic, just like diary writing. It clarifies our own thoughts and feelings and often we have answered our own problems by the end of the post by taking the time to think.
I am married and have children. But the reality is on a day to day basis neither my husband, children, work colleagues have any idea of the internal struggle of what having breast cancer and treatment brings as we generally don't share it. This site allows a safe place for us to do that. Regardless of sex, race, colour, religious beliefs or circumstance. Moderators are important to ensure all people feel included and not ostracized. It is a difficult balance for them I'm sure.
Take care Joannie. Know that we know you are a very caring person who is struggling at the moment and sorry that we couldn't provide you with the support you felt you needed to remain.
Kath x
Sharing your own difficulties as you have isn't moaning but can help others with the same issues not feel so isolated. I use that word moaning as it was included at one point in your title of others sharing their difficulties. I however think discussing difficulties isn't moaning but sharing. If we can't talk about these issues with other bc sisters /brothers who can we share it with? . For the most part ...in the real world...most of us put on the brave face and soldier on. It's wonderful to have a platform that we can share what's really going on behind the smile.
A few years back prior your diagnosis and joining, this site had an upgrade. There were multiple multiple groups at that time. Each group has to have people manage it...usually several. During that upgrade these groups were reduced and refined as people would join, put out a call for support and nobody checked in. At that time it was discovered if the post was put on the main forum there was support rapidly rallied for individuals.
The groups remaining are active and / or require privacy by the very need of the intimate discussion required. ie the breast reconstruction group and the lets talk vagina group. It is less about similar interests and more about the privacy aspect.
Individual threads however by there nature attract individuals of similar personality and experience. Sometimes there aren't many comments as people don't have the experience to share or know the words to comfort. However writing about your experiences can be therapeutic, just like diary writing. It clarifies our own thoughts and feelings and often we have answered our own problems by the end of the post by taking the time to think.
I am married and have children. But the reality is on a day to day basis neither my husband, children, work colleagues have any idea of the internal struggle of what having breast cancer and treatment brings as we generally don't share it. This site allows a safe place for us to do that. Regardless of sex, race, colour, religious beliefs or circumstance. Moderators are important to ensure all people feel included and not ostracized. It is a difficult balance for them I'm sure.
Take care Joannie. Know that we know you are a very caring person who is struggling at the moment and sorry that we couldn't provide you with the support you felt you needed to remain.
Kath x