Good Results! Why am I still doubting?

@sumha  So pleased to hear your Mum's tests came back with a good result.  It's natural to be anxious that the medical team have missed something but best to turn your thoughts away from that because it's a never-ending spiral.  You work with what you know.  Your Mum will get the treatment plan that is appropriate for her.  The object of further treatment after surgery is to mop up any stray cells that may have gone a-wandering.  I have had surgery, chemo and radiation over the past 12 months and was struggling with the idea of recurrence at the end of it.  What my oncologist told me was to try not to overthink every niggle or pain I got.  If something didn't go away, get it checked out.  But that the important thing to do was to understand that I had done everything I could at this stage and to get back to living.  Because continually thinking that cancer was back was not living well at all.  He also said that he knew it wouldn't be easy to do.  At the time, that advice did calm me and a few months down the track, I have recognised just how true it is.  I think less about the cancer itself and most of my thoughts about it tend to be annoyance about the impact it has had on my body.  I don't know the future but I'm trying not to waste my life worrying about things that I don't know.  To put it a different way, I know that cars are dangerous and that many people's lives are impacted by car accidents - that doesn't mean that I'm going to freak out every time I have to get in a car.

So, that was a long way to tell you to try to slow your thoughts down and go day by day.  Your Mum has some shit to go through and you will be going through it with her.  Does your school have a well-being/counselling team?  Or as @primek has said, there is also Canteen.  Touch base with either or both of these services.  My kids were a great support to me, mostly by getting on with things while at the same time understanding when I wasn't feeling well enough to function as normal.

Take care.