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Di_BCNA
16 years agoMember
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165 Replies
- HeidihoeMember
Isn't this good that we can get a laugh!!!!
Being an artist I said it as I thought, can you just paint one on?
I just think the whole process is amazing full-stop.
And to feel good about it all, is just wonderful.
Thanks to advances in science and technology we get good boobs....
yeh.
- ReeMember
Hiya Girls,
Was just reading through to catch up and nearly wet myself at Heidi's comment "can you get it coloured in?" Sorry, I'm not laughing at you Heidi, I was laughing because I had a mental picture of my boys sneaking in while I was asleep and using their textas to give me multi-coloured nipples.....ROFL....they have coloured in their pet cat, guinea pig and any poor bugs as well as the neighbours "highly bred very expensive" poodle. Probably the most fun the poor dog has had in years, so not too much of a stretch to imagine me as the next victim.
Too funny.....
- HeidihoeMember
Really that sounds fantastic!!!!
What great feedback.
Can you get it coluoured in??
Please explain in simple terms what the
TRAM flap stands for and means ? Spell it out to me.
Had ultrasound today and previous lump couldn't be found?
All Good, nothing in lymphs.
Booked into speak to Familial Cancer Counsellor end May.
- louisegMember
Hi again Heidi
I probably wouldn't go for a TRAM flap if you don't have a good pain threshold - it is certainly more painful than the Lat Dorsi reconstruction that I had on the other side! I only needed a couple of Panadol after the Lat Dorsi and had very little pain at all! You may be lucky and they may be able to do the op without using your muscle.....I'm not sure of the pros and cons but I know that my surgeon uses the muscle to get a better end result, but other surgeons obviously think differently based on what Ree has had done.
You shouldn't need to have any lymph nodes removed unless there is evidence of cancer in the breast. I only had 5 taken out from the second time and none of them were cancerous. My risk of lymphodema is fairly low.
My reconstructed nipple is healing beautifully :) I am REALLY happy with the result. You wouldn't know that it wasn't a real one other than the lack of colour at the moment.
Have a good day,
Louise
- HeidihoeMember
Hi Louise,
I have Rhematoid Arthritis as well and get painful flare up's with the inflamation. Mainly in my right arm. But also in my knees and feet. I do Hydro therapy to try and keep movement going.
With my past 3 C-Sections I felt a lot of pain and they didn't seem to give me enough pain meds. So don't have a good pain threshold.
I'm wondering how I would make it through this type of proceedure?
I don't want to get to the stage where they take my lymph glands under armpit as I'd no doubt end up with Lymphodema like one of my cousins did!
There shouldn't be too much scaring if they just go through the nipple area.
Lots of things sound quite good when I discuss them, not as much horror stories as one's mind could imagine. So good stuff.
Are you reconstructed nipples healed after surgery as you are still wearing compression like top? And if so are you happy with the appearance?
Heidi
- louisegMember
Hi Again,
Don't be afraid to ask questions! There is no such thing as a silly one and if you don't ask, you won't learn :)
I have an eye shaped cut in each breast which is where they did the mastectomy - there is no cut underneath, everything was done through this "eye". The nipple was removed as part of this eye shaped incision. After everything is all settled down after surgery (really it is the last thing to be done) the surgeon did the nipple.
I had to wear a crop-top type bra after surgery (and still am now) for about 6 weeks. This is very comfortable and doesn't push on the scars.
If you already have a C-sec scar they may be able to open that back up (but extend it - the cut goes hip bone to hip bone). I certainly had more tissue than was needed for the one breast that I had removed and they did a lovely tummy tuck on me :) I got rid of all that extra fat and it was the one really positive thing to happen at that time of my life. They just used what they needed to make the breast.
It is not an easy operation - you need to have a really good, positive frame of mind before you get this type of op done. After you have a TRAM flap it is very difficult to stand up straight and it can be a bit painful to do this first of all. You need to work hard at the physio exercises that they give you to do and, if you do, you will have a great outcome. I wish I could have used my own tissue both times but it wasn't to be.
Louise
- HeidihoeMember
Hi Louise
Me again, so....
if I understand correctly I could get nipple cut out leaving a hole? which they don't turn into a nipple straight away,why?
Stomach off and tissue replaces breast tissue removed, so do they cut you underneath your boob in like a smily shape and stick new tissue in or make nipple hole wider and push it in there? and sew up hole?
Because I would imagine that my bra would rub on a cut underneath especially with keloiding???
Sorry I don't really know very much and others know everything I feel really stupid asking things sometimes.
I have a C-Sec scar (keloid) and it is raised and bubble like and I have tried the Bio oil and other creams before. I have a stomach I could have supplied you with eight new boobs! Between belly button and C scar. I would love to remove it!!!!! Can they take a bit of extra tissue and throw it away at the same time??? Instant tummy tuck!
Heidi
- louisegMember
Hi Heidi
I didn't have a TRAM reconstruction the second time because my tummy didn't grow back! I've got a lovely flat stomach now, which is a huge bonus :)
I kept the majority of my skin with both mastectomies - all except a little area on each side where the nipple was. My surgeon said that it is rare to get any BC coming back in the skin of the breast unless there was a tumour very close to the surface. He simply feels the skin over my reconstruction every time I go to see him and I look out for changes (which I am not expecting to get).
I scar pretty badly too with quite lumpy dark scars. My TRAM scar is very low down (similar to where a caesarian scar would be) and I really don't notice is. I can still where a bikini if I am feeling brave LOL. The one on my back hasn't scarred badly at all. I rubbed it daily with Bio oil after the op and it certainly helped a lot :)
My surgeon prefers to use a muscle when he does a tissue expander type reconstruction because he thinks it gives a better result. He doesn't like to put the expanders straight under the skin. If you have a TRAM flap reconstruction you don't need to take muscles etc from elsewhere in your body.
For the nipple, the surgeon "creates" a new nipple from the tissue that is there. I am not exactly sure how he does it but, other than the lack of colour at the moment, you wouldn't know that it wasn't real! Sooooo lifelike!
Anything else that I've forgotten or you need to ask, I'm around :)
Louise
- HeidihoeMember
Hi Ree
I thought that if I am scared due to the keloiding I should not look at myself as unattractive but more admiringly ... the battle scars of life, they can remind me everyday....
I am strong, I am alive! I am a warrior! I keep getting hit but I keep fighting back so I will fight to the end and never give up, no matter how scared I become.
I feel like crying now because both my cousins never gave up they kept fighting and were very strong.
I have used the steroid creams and heard that they thin the skin.
You know I would be clever to get the whole lot out too as my periods have been very heavy as I get older. Who needs periods anyway, I'd be happy to not have to go through that every month!
Heidi
- HeidihoeMember
Thanks for that.
So you get your new perky boobies Friday I hope your husbands home to see them and help out. You must be very excited! You are nearly there!!!
I really hope it all goes well and you wake up to the new you, feeling good.
In 3 months time, you deal with another thing it just seems to take so.... long to get from start to finish!
I also think it depends on the Dr and surgeon you get how things are approached.
I have been on the phone all morning trying to find out if they have familial counselling here in Ballarat or whether I have to go to Melbourne or Geelong for it about 1 hour consult for the first one and filling in of forms.
Because the Dr has no idea! i ALSO SPOKE TO THE pATHOLOGY AND A SCIENTIST there today who explained that the blood I had sent cannot be used as it was not initialled by me which is one of the proceedures that you are agreeing it is your blood. Plus it will take some time to book in and see a counsellor to find out about how it effects your future job prospects and health insurance as you may not be able to get cover! You must disclose any genetic testing for ins. policy. Plus costs etc...
Anyway I'm talking too much!
A slow road is what I'm finding out.
Good news Wed I go have ultra sound to check lump in right boob to see if it's bigger. So doing the right thing there.
Hope you are doing ok, will contact you soon. In some pain at the moment with my RA and still not well with ear infection etc.
Bye for now.
H