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Hi there Lynne .... first up, welcome from your BCNA family ... so pleased you have joined us.
I had a mastectomy and removal of all lymph nodes in January rather than a lumpectomy. I was given a choice of one or the other and opted for the former of the two. It was the right choice for me, and as things turned out I was lucky in as much as the cancer was contained in the breast and hadn't travelled anywhere else. Another six months and it could have been different. I am also fortunate that I don't need chemo or radiotherapy.
I am glad you are in a positive frame of mind - that is half the battle I think. The housework can be a problem though - those pesky cleaning fairies are never around when you need them. I even tried leaving the laundry door open and the lights on but that didn't work either.
I know how it is getting things done, I had friends and extended family all hovering around trying to help but to be honest I felt pressured and I didn't want to be organised. My partner is a wonderful bloke and he became rather adept at washing (he did the hanging out a little different than I did but I didn't realy care), vacumning and doing dishes. We just did things at our own pace ... no pressure.
There wasn't much cooking done - fortunately it was summer so it was lots of cold meats and salads ... not that I had much of an appetite.
Do you have a homecare group in your district? Maybe you could get them in once a week to do the awkward jobs. You could perhaps put the washing in the machine, they may be able to hang it out and your partner? could take it in. They could vacumn for you and maybe iron for half an hour.
The most important thing is not to allow yourself to get stressed over incidentals .... you need to concentrate on number one - YOU !!! If you don't feel like doing things, then don't.
Your family and friends love you for being you - not for your housekeeping!!! If there are dishes in the sink and unfolded washing so be it - the main thing is that you are well.
Here endeth the first lesson LoL !!!
Cheers Shirl xx