frustrated with friends....

Hi Jo - thank you for putting your thoughts up about friends, I know exactly how you feel, friends come and they go......but then I guess they are not friends.  I have recently finished my chemo and radiotherapy and people say "Oh I bet you are glad its all over!" Errrrr, excuse me? 'I WISH!', not only do you have to have regular check ups and all the other medical palava, I have to do the Herceptin every three weeks for a year.....that means going up a couple of days before to the hospital and having the dreaded blood test (only because my veins have decided to go on strike) and then the Herceptin infusion (there's another day....) it just never seems to end.  And dare I mention it to any one now, you can see their eyes 'glaze over' - they just don't want to know.  I had a skin cancer cut out of my face the other day - 11 stitches across my jawline later!  I didn't even bother to tell anyone about it, because I have the feeling they are just not interested any more - whether that is true or not, I don't know - but now I find my email box empty every day and gee, if my kids ring up, its only to rant about their teenage children and what should they do.....(heaven forbid if I dropped in a sentance about what a crap week I had at the doctors!) I don't even get the chance.  By and large I am lucky to get a phone call.   As for the friends (hullo? - where are you?).  I know one thing, the next time they bleat on at me 'how they shaved for cancer' or wore pink - I know I will shake my head and think......put your money where your mouth is!  I still can never forget one woman (so-called friend - or 'feind') who said to me "We will pray for you in church on Sunday, in the mean time, pray for my cat - it has cancer too!"  Believe me, I really wanted to say where she could shove the cat - but I was too polite and let it slide.  Another 'friend' told me "Dont' let this thing take over your life" - that little gem even cracked my husband up, being as he as to drag me kicking and screaming to appointments - We acutally think its great when we have a 'medical free week' - kinda makes you wanna kick yer heels up! So Jo, try not let it get to you, we live in a judgemental and extremely fickle world - but there are some of us who really know what page you are on.....because we're on it with you!   Chin up! x x x  Josie