thanks for the post.
we ARE on our own, but we have each other, is a saying i have now.
yes FIRST look after number one, then people who you care about and then the wider community.
after BC, thinking and priorities change.
those who have had BC" understand " what we have to go through.
maybe this " friend" is a bit jealous of less time you have recently had with her.
your friendship may recover, or you may decide it is time to " let go ' of some friends and concentrate on those who make you feel " better" , now you have gone through BC.
being able to laugh about some of life's hardships and oddities, is something i cherish these days. people who can make me do that usually end up a friend, as i continue on my own unique path through life.
wishing you happy smiles, and shoulders to cry on,
kathy.