Jo, Please just concentrate on yourself. If you look after number ONE, then you will be better equipped to see things for what they are. I have a "friend" (met her about 23 years ago when she became my daughter's home mum for after school care) We used to party fairly hard when we were both single mums and I have helped her through some tough times. She actually introduced me to my now husband. Well I left her a message the other day as I needed to inform her of something. I haven't heard from her since January this year - have had radiation therapy, chemo etc etc. Did not even get a phone call from her to see how I was. (She is obsessed with earning as much money as possible at whatever cost) Anyway tonight she returned my call (forgot what it was I needed to tell her). She never asked how I was and when I told her I don't have to wear hats anymore as my hair is starting to now grow back - she said "Oh did you lose your hair?" I always knew we were "miles apart" and now I am running far and fast. Remember YOU are Number ONE. Good luck with the radiation therapy - cold washers and moisturiser helped me to minimise burns. XLeonie