frustrated with friends....

Hi Jo - good job throwing all that down and getting it out of your head!! 

I have friends that couldn't even pick up the phone to say "hi and how are you" when I was diagnosed!  I decided that there were probably reasons why they didn't and didn't try to lose too much sleep over it. For some people, being sick in any form is so far removed from their own experience that they don't know how to act around others that are, nor can be expected to understand. Some also are so wrapped up in their own world that they don't realise that everyone's world is not the same as theirs.

I imagine that your friends are all young and sickness may not really be on their radar.

I must admit that I have no idea personally what chemo feels like as I was lucky that i didn't have to have it last year.  I do remember how sick my Mum was at 48 when she went through it though.  I was 24 and was pretty busy getting engaged and planning our wedding, so on reflection probably still really didn't know exactly how she felt a lot of the time nor took the time to ask, as my world still continued.

Glad you have finished Chemo so that is one thing crossed off the list!  Imagine radiotherapy will bring different symptoms and feelings but once done, will be another thing crossed off. 

Focus on the positives in any friendship and hope that when the dust settles that you can pick up partying with them all where you left off!!

We all have days that we could scream at everyone and then days that it feels like the whole BC never existed. 

Take each day as it comes and never feel guilty at venting in this forum - this is one place that whilst everyone's journey is different, we are united by this disease in whatever form it personally takes.  Gives us all a bond and understanding that someone that has not experienced it cannot truly understand.  Is circumstance but no-ones fault!!

Have a great day.

Leanne :-) xx