Finished chemo but.....
so this week was my last chemo. I'm just 2 days out and feeling the usual crap. My onc is really happy with how things have gone. I started with a 9cm lump and at least 3 nodes lumpy by touch. She c...
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@Lillian67 I think his response is like some men but not all, in that just doesn't know how to deal with it, what to say or do. Men generally like to fix things, when they can't they get frustrated and uptight not knowing what to do. I think you said it yourself, you're tired of being strong....ABSOLUTELY!!! its hard work! I did this through my first diagnosis as I was a single parent and had to be for my kids, my 2nd diagnosis in 2015 my kids saw me in the depths of hell in moments...every facet of chemo there was,I was so very ill. I hated it!!! But you know what?? I showed them that yes Mum is incredibly strong...but she's also vulnerable, and so damn real and honest and so I think it showed them all facets rather than just one level of how you have to be. So I say, this is your time, put you first above everyone! THEY ALL think chemo ends you're perfect!!! NO IDEA!! I copped this from family and friends, most friends I never heard from after that because they dont know how to deal with it. I learnt that I had nurture me from now on, because this was about me.
In Feb I had a single mastectomy/diep flap reconstruction and I was petrified 12 months leading into it, I didnt cope emotionally at all, so I contacted a Psych I had 3 years prior. 1 session and it calmed me and I settled, I had the surgery and I never looked back, I dont' feel emotional at all strangely. My surgery was hard 8hrs, massive recovery but I feel amazing!! and so happy with the result. 1 more revision to finish the boob, top it up with some more belly/hip fat, pop a nipple on and lift my right breast, for me this is the icing at the end of my 6yrs journey. We always fear what we don't know...so keep talking. Lillian I have a wonderful partner in many ways, but he's direct and to the point, so I learnt to go to close friends for the comfort that I wanted. It's a bit like I think we expect 1 person to fulfill all the roles,its taken me a lifetime to realise that we get bits and pieces from a whole lot of different people. Hang in there. Melinda xo
In Feb I had a single mastectomy/diep flap reconstruction and I was petrified 12 months leading into it, I didnt cope emotionally at all, so I contacted a Psych I had 3 years prior. 1 session and it calmed me and I settled, I had the surgery and I never looked back, I dont' feel emotional at all strangely. My surgery was hard 8hrs, massive recovery but I feel amazing!! and so happy with the result. 1 more revision to finish the boob, top it up with some more belly/hip fat, pop a nipple on and lift my right breast, for me this is the icing at the end of my 6yrs journey. We always fear what we don't know...so keep talking. Lillian I have a wonderful partner in many ways, but he's direct and to the point, so I learnt to go to close friends for the comfort that I wanted. It's a bit like I think we expect 1 person to fulfill all the roles,its taken me a lifetime to realise that we get bits and pieces from a whole lot of different people. Hang in there. Melinda xo