Hi Fran...so glad u have been cheered up by those beautiful new babies :)
As a mum of twins (plus an older one) the only advice we can give is to do everyhing at the same time-feed them together, bath together, sleep together-a good routine makes a calmer home-seems to have worked really well here. If possible have mum/dad make 1 or 2 days or 1/2 days a week where its just the toddler and them having some quality time-its a bit easy for them to feel a bit forgotten in the busy-ness that is having TWO new babies in the house..there, thats our 2 bobs worth :)
Hope u get over the pneumonia soon....not much fun at all
take care..love to you
sam xxx