Thanks Jen. It is such a help to be able to share our feelings (sometimes positive, sometimes not so) with others who understand from a similar perspective. No one, including us, really knows what to do when confronted with BC. I guess given a choice we would all like to just pretend it isn't happening. I know my brother is not one to show emotion so I guess he just never knew what to say or do and then maybe felt awkward and this made things worse. I do know that I now feel ok about it and can hopefully move forward and enjoy Christmas.
Hope you have a terrific Christmas with your family and that 2015 is a happy and healthy one for you all. Deanne xxx