Families! You can't choose them and you are bound to them for life! I have 2 sisters and a brother and we are all so different.We've had stages of being close and then being distant.I'm sure they cared when I had bc but they didn't offer any support.They are all healthy and don't understand.My brother is a sweetheart but his partner is as mad as a cut snake so he has his own issues.There have been times when I really didn't think I'd be able to forgive my sisters.But we have had a tough year with our mum dying and my sister's husband dying and we've had to pull together to get through it all.So any misgivings and hurt have fallen by the wayside.We will get together at Christmas but it will be a sad one.Like you Deanne,I am grateful for my husband and 2 daughters and many wonderful friends.Sending you big Christmas hug, love Tonya xx