Feeling lonely
I get that people don't know what to do or say. I know they probably feel like they have to give us space to deal with what's going on and I knew some people's reaction would be to pull away. But I'm...
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I had the similar experience as Nikki, a friend I'd known 30yrs I ended up letting go of. For years I felt let down and pushed aside within this little group of friends, when I got my 2nd diagnosis she started calling and wanting to be here...and for me??? Im like but you couldnt be here just normally how the hell could I trust you to be here now?? was really hard but I didnt want to feel that way anymore. It really is the thing of if they havent literally been through it, they have NO IDEA! They sympathize but I find even now, a few that were sort of there through Chemo have dropped off. I caught up with 2 for lunch yesterday but I felt like for the other 2 they had other things to do. I hadnt seen these friends since pre-surgery so was a bit disappointing.
One thing I do know is, it isnt about YOU or any of us it says everything about everyone else. Their inability to deal with the complexity of Breast Cancer and I know for me. Sadly in a way, this is the only place I can come and REALLY TALK knowing you are supported and genuinely by everyone here because they are walking the same path....I feel lucky for that...because otherwise if all I had were family and friends, I'd find it tough because am just not understood.
Hugs Melinda xo
One thing I do know is, it isnt about YOU or any of us it says everything about everyone else. Their inability to deal with the complexity of Breast Cancer and I know for me. Sadly in a way, this is the only place I can come and REALLY TALK knowing you are supported and genuinely by everyone here because they are walking the same path....I feel lucky for that...because otherwise if all I had were family and friends, I'd find it tough because am just not understood.
Hugs Melinda xo