Feeling lonely
I get that people don't know what to do or say. I know they probably feel like they have to give us space to deal with what's going on and I knew some people's reaction would be to pull away. But I'm...
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People are crap aren't they! I don't understand people sometimes. I'm just trying to see it as people do not understand until they have been through it. I know I didn't understand when my Aunt went through it years ago. I guess I do find it strange though that those close to you can't come and sit and talk to you to try to understand, just let you talk, you know?
I have been doing FB posts sharing info about my treatment, how it effects me, help needed etc I'm a fairly upfront person :) But in the end you can't make people do anything they don't feel compelled to do.
My girls had a great play date but it made me realise the Mums aren't 'my tribe'. I moved to area just over a year ago, hubby's home town, and I have tried for a year to create friendships with this group (his friends wives) and it's just not happening. I think having lived out of the area for so many years we are just not in the group anymore.
I feel for my husband as these are his school friends and he is a bit baffled why we are never invited and is hurt that very few have called him. Particularly when he is the guy who will help you in a moment if you need. I feel for my girls too as they get along so well with their kids and seem well liked.
Anyway, I realised we don't have the level of friendship that they probably feel like they need or can help in anyway. As long as I can get an occasional play date for my girls that will be great :)
I am so grateful for my MIL, she is here everyday. Cleans the house, does the dishes and laundry, pops to the shops when she sees we need stuff, even turned up yesterday with some lovely flannelette pjs for me. And she always comes prepared with craft and games for the girls. I've decided I'm going to put my energy into organising a big party for her for her 70th to say thank you. Put the energy out that I wish was coming in :)
I have been doing FB posts sharing info about my treatment, how it effects me, help needed etc I'm a fairly upfront person :) But in the end you can't make people do anything they don't feel compelled to do.
My girls had a great play date but it made me realise the Mums aren't 'my tribe'. I moved to area just over a year ago, hubby's home town, and I have tried for a year to create friendships with this group (his friends wives) and it's just not happening. I think having lived out of the area for so many years we are just not in the group anymore.
I feel for my husband as these are his school friends and he is a bit baffled why we are never invited and is hurt that very few have called him. Particularly when he is the guy who will help you in a moment if you need. I feel for my girls too as they get along so well with their kids and seem well liked.
Anyway, I realised we don't have the level of friendship that they probably feel like they need or can help in anyway. As long as I can get an occasional play date for my girls that will be great :)
I am so grateful for my MIL, she is here everyday. Cleans the house, does the dishes and laundry, pops to the shops when she sees we need stuff, even turned up yesterday with some lovely flannelette pjs for me. And she always comes prepared with craft and games for the girls. I've decided I'm going to put my energy into organising a big party for her for her 70th to say thank you. Put the energy out that I wish was coming in :)