Feeling lonely
I get that people don't know what to do or say. I know they probably feel like they have to give us space to deal with what's going on and I knew some people's reaction would be to pull away. But I'm...
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As the girls have all said, we have all experienced similar things Lillian - from my perspective, one of my best best closest grilfriends only saw me once last year after I had my mastectomy. When I tried to make contact and asked for us to meet up so we could talk about what might have happened between us (I think she was somehow offended by something I'd done....but tbh I reckon cancer trumps offence grrrrrr). Three times she cancelled. So, I had to give up - I deleted her from my contacts and Instagram (my teenage sons told me that was a big move) and I have resolved no longer to harbour the anger and disappointment she was making me feel, or I was letting her make me feel. I have let her go.
They say that you shed and gain friends every 10 years...I shed her, but certainly gained more and the quality of the friends I now have is beyond belief: authentic, genuine, caring, loving, supportive.
You know, It's amazing to be able to tell a girlfriend that you really do love and appreciate them.
I have vowed not to leave anything unsaid any more.
So, we do understand how you feel. That's just the way of it. You've had plenty of sound advice from others here so I won't give you any, other than to say I hope you feel enmeshed in the hugs and warmth we are surrounding you with...and hope you're not feeling as lonely any more :*
Nikki xxxxxx
They say that you shed and gain friends every 10 years...I shed her, but certainly gained more and the quality of the friends I now have is beyond belief: authentic, genuine, caring, loving, supportive.
You know, It's amazing to be able to tell a girlfriend that you really do love and appreciate them.
I have vowed not to leave anything unsaid any more.
So, we do understand how you feel. That's just the way of it. You've had plenty of sound advice from others here so I won't give you any, other than to say I hope you feel enmeshed in the hugs and warmth we are surrounding you with...and hope you're not feeling as lonely any more :*
Nikki xxxxxx