Feeling lonely

Lillian67 said:

I get that people don't know what to do or say. I know they probably feel like they have to give us space to deal with what's going on and I knew some people's reaction would be to pull away.
But I'm still surprised at the lack of connection. Do we really live in a world where it is ok to just text your own family about their cancer and not even pick up the phone to actually talk to them?
Im so hurt by family and friends who have done little more than reply on a Facebook post. They haven't called. Haven't tried to see me, offer help with my girls, dropped off soup, not even sent a freakin card.
Today it has me wondering if I've been the shitty friend. I feel very alone and wondering what I did wrong.

I feel sorry for what you are feeling and I know your feelings are very real. My family members have been really supportive, even Dad who's really aloof showed me concern right at diagnosis (He lives overseas so it's hard). Mum flew over and has been helping with my boys and chores and support me in every way I am so grateful. My brother has been an angel as well texting me almost every day and he lives overseas as well. My sister on the other hand has never shown much concern whatsoever, so i perfectly understand you, not even an email, not even a text message. Once she sent me a photo of her daughter's childcare centre being smashed by a car reversing in, not a word on how I am coping with BC and treatment... haha go figure...some people.

I guess we really have to know who is really the supportive ones and choose to bid those who are goodbye. No hard feelings, let's forgive them let's not let them ruin our moods or our sleep or our health. Going through this journey really does help me see who truly care for me. I am shocked to see some friends whom i deemed as friends since teenage years are actually not my friends! And some friends who I did not expect would care for me actually cared. I have since stopped connecting with a few of them as they honestly don't care. It is better off this way. I need to be among people who truly care for me right now.

Take care of yourself. xxx