Hey @Lillian67, perhaps you could elaborate on your Facebook page and post in a light hearted manner that No your not contagious, Yes you would love to be visited but perhaps a phone call prior to a visit to ensure you are well enough to receive visitors would be appreciated ;) - I think family and friends also go into shock and while we don't really have the luxury of staying in that state of shock ourselves due to the speed and necessity of surgeries and treatment our families and friends can take longer to come to terms with us having BC because they feel so helpless. Perhaps you could post this link http://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/categories/supporting-someone-with-breast-cancer to let them know its okay to broach the subject and give offers if assistance. Last but not least, a huge virtual hug, you are most certainly not alone and we are here for you. Xx Cath