Dating and meeting new people

@HinterlandSian. Ha. What do any of us expect from a relationship as we age?
 I don't know how old you are, but everyone collects more baggage as the years pass. Your Mets vs his heart condition or impotence due to prostate cancer? Meh. Who's perfect? A decent and caring companion will do. I know that sounds like I'd settle for a dog, but I hope you know what I mean
Lots of lovely people are languishing out there because they feel they are suboptimal. Not the perfect catch. Which is sad.
I do think we need to be very careful that noone takes advantage of us. Which means taking things slowly. Anyone who wants to rush needs to be thrown in the bin. 

Wishing you all the best as you put yourself out there @Mightystar.

@Cath62 sounds amazing, a beautiful love story! Hope I’m just as lucky xx

Wishing all the single ladies lots of luck. There are good men around, it's just finding them. I was on my own with my son for 20 yrs. I had a couple of relationships in that time. Then my son said to me 'Mum i want you to put yourself out there. Get on the internet and give it ago. Sure there will be loosers but keep sifting through, be open to letting love in and it will come.' My son was 20 at the time and had just met his now wife. My son is 32 now. I took my son's advice and joined R.S.V.P. I had lots of dates but after about 10 months and nearly ready to give up, I met my husband. We have been together 12 years and he has supported me through plenty health issues including bc. He is a wonderful man. So grateful ❤🙏

I hear you @HinterlandSian. I want to be loved for who I am and as I am. It definitely narrows the pool. I’m going into it with the mindset that it’s great to meet new people and no expectations of romantic connections. I’m enjoying being ‘back on the horse’ per se! 

Don't shut all the doors @HinterlandSian - leave them ajar .... stranger things have been known to happen with the chance meeting of someone - and you deserve just as much happiness and companionship as anyone else xx

Way to go @Mightystar !  It takes a lot of guts to date these days without the cancer let alone with it.  I've been single for over 10 years now because dating is just so demoralising but am now thinking it would be nice to have a love story before my last chapter, but being metastatic, how do you possibly date with that being a conversation you have to have? I'd feel that leaving that out up front would be dishonest but what guy in his right mind would say "oooh, she sounds like a keeper!" to that?? It's all too hard.

I wouldn't be worried about the guy not liking your symmetrical chest or not!  I would be more concerned if you thought they genuinely liked you or not!  If a guy likes you they won't be worried about whether you have large boobs, small boobs, etc.  , just my opinion. :)

But then again I am not in the dating game, so I may be completely out of touch in that regard.  I am single, but not looking, so I don't really care what in that regard. I wish you all the success, because you really do deserve a truly loving guy that doesn't care less about your cancer status, and/or history.  Take care. xx

Thanks ladies. I kissed a prince today! He wasn’t worried about my non symmetrical chest. But let’s see, this dating game isn’t easy!! Feels great to be myself and share myself without shame or embarrassment.