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Hi Rowdy - sorry to hear you don't feel like the support is there in the review process but hey we are your support!   Not sure perhaps he is in denial in that he thinks treatments are all over everything is hunky dory! 
We get it!  We all have it filed ready for the next review and as it approaches all those thoughts and concerns that we had on our all consuming health event are at the forefront and won't be filed again until we get the see you in 12 months words!

Take care xx

Thanks ladies I struggle to talk to my husband. I know we are all different but there is only the 2 of us at home and I just don't get why he can't ask. I have a diary on the bench so he can't say he dosen't know. I'm sick of making excuses for him. Yep i think a punch in the head is a good idea. Still a jerk at the moment.
Have a good day everyone

Hey Rowdy, First off Congratulations on your Three Years - Wooohoooooo!!! You go girl - that's fantastic!!!!! Secondly go out and buy yourself a celebration cake and when your hubby asks why the cake tell him! That way you get cake and he'll get the point (and if he doesn't THEN punch him!! ;) ) . Big hugs Xx Cath

I agree with Afraser.... MEN dont think like we do ..... to them, they often think.... ok well treatment is over life is back to normal and they dont realise the stress we carry each time we are due for a review.... YES be frustrated with him and maybe communicate to him ... Hey honey today my review was good but shit the stress of going was horrible.    None of us are mind readers....  I dont have a partner to do that. I went through my BC roller coaster with my 3 children and they are very receptive to my emotions as I approach each review now... but we talk about it and They tell me when I am being antzy because they realise I sometimes dont realise I am being antzy..... 

Tell him how you feel, I am sure he has absent mindedly thought "oh she is well now so she likes being independent so I will just go about the day as we would normally."

Hugs and energy.....
Alice
 

It's hard I know but we all went through a lot of wishing to be "back to normal". So did our partners probably! So not so surprising that now we do seem to be back to normal, they go back to the old patterns. Except we haven't really. We are either still coping with changes or we have embraced a new normal, that says we will never really stop thinking about cancer, and we sort of expect our partners to be sensitive to that too. Not sure what the long term answer is - my partner got very early bowel cancer diagnosed (3 years after me, excellent prognosis). No, that's NOT the answer but it did make him more sensitive - to his changes : )  - not necessarily mine! Short term, it's more telling I think. I know it would be nice if our partners didn't always need to be told, but ............

Oh yes. I went to my appointment kniwing they were probably going to stop my treatment alone. He did call me though from work ...but it's not the same.