It took three GPs and 12 months for a diagnosis, my age and lack of history in the family was why they said they didn't need to investigate further. According to them my lump was a build up of calcium on my ribs! I understand your frustration Simone.
I also agree with Janet re oncologist reactions and early menopause, not happy either. It would be great to have support groups that focused on different phases of a womans life. I have found it very hard to find a support group that suits me.
I do feel for younger women and the issue of fertility, I may have been older but I liked the idea of having my options open to more kids, should I choose to. So I really hope this works out well for you all.
I also agree with Stacey re friendships, many of mine have changed, some quite dramatically. It has been and continues to be a very Surreal experience no matter what age you are.