Okay - update... I saw the surgeon this afternoon. My 2.5cm tumour was 4.5cm with no clear margins on 4 sides. I had 5 nodes removed with 2 cancerous and 1 showing signs. ER+ & PR+ (PR stronger than the core biopsy showed) and HER-.
I'm going in on Monday afternoon to have mastectomy and axillary clearance (he did say how many nodes but neither my husband or I can remember). Then sometime after that I will see the oncologist to discuss further treatment which he thinks will be full-on. Leaving reconstruction optional for later down the track. He concurs with my GP that I won't be back at work in Term 1 and possibly not in Term 2 - luckily I have also come to that conclusion and have given work a heads-up.
I can't really say I feel "better" but I do feel more settled after talking to him. I went to Dr Kollias as my GP said he was the one in Adelaide that she would go to if she had to (and he does seem to have good "reviews") so I'm trusting that he's good but his manner does instil confidence. I know that my anxiety will ramp up again by Monday and I'm far from a willing patient at the best of times but at the moment I'm okay - not great, but okay.
One good thing - he's said that I have his permission when I'm in hospital to leave the ward and go out in the garden! Yayy! It's so seriously cruel to be able to look out of a glass door and see a balcony but not be allowed to open it and get fresh air and sunshine.