@Mollygirl & @SoldierCrab , my husband will be with me - he's got his own issues but has been a rock through this. I knew from when I had the surgery that it could go either way and I think I was mentally prepared for the breast to go but not for the nodes to be positive. And it broke my heart to see my kids falter when we got the phone call. When I was first diagnosed, my 15 yo son said to me that if he seemed like he wasn't concerned it was really that he knew I'd be okay. Now, of course, he knows that nothing's certain.
Well, I've had some time to process things - now I have to get my questions in order to ask the surgeon.
But thank you all for your support. I'll let you know what happens.