What do you do if you feel really angry with someone but at the same time, in the back of your head, you heard... stop it you are just being a bitch???

Hi Cate and adeanAgree that that is in my head too!Personally I feel that this whole BC thing can change your tolerance for things - after all we have all been through - diagnosis, treatment, side effects, menopause, etc.......and although here on this site we get it often others don't. I find at times my tolerance for things is not as it once was and that is ok - I remind myself of this and try to see the situation making me angry from other's point of view before I let the bitch loose!!! Doesn' t always work though :#

You can be an angry bitch. Really, you can. The little voice is the thing that will make you feel like shit if you let the bitch off the lead and she bites someone she shouldn't. You're the only one who knows how that will turn out. Some people need a good roasting on occasions. I certainly do. It's all about context and perspective.

I'm with Kayvie, the real restraint is wondering when it's yourself, possibly completely unintentionally, who has been the bitch!! I know I have said really stupid things at times, and have appreciated the tolerance and forgiveness of others. We've all had good reasons to lose it, but least said, soonest mended.

I tried to explain to my husband (of 38 years) the other day why, as had been said, I was always so grumpy. The female two doors down whose barking rats...chihuahua and shitzu...get left in an enclosed courtyard for yours on end drive me ape s..t. The old fool over the road why spends his day with a leaf blower blowing leaves first up then down the road. Aforementioned leaves then eventually get blown onto an enormous heap, about chest height around a tree in his front yard. They're never disposed of, just rearranged as they blow free, day after day after day. I said it was as if I was a glass, which in the past was only partially full. If someone (the dog owner or the leaf blower fanatic), behaved thus, it was like adding a teaspoon of water into the glass....there was still room for that 5ml and the glass didn't overflow. I had the capacity to absorb it. Now, however, with all the trauma, worry, angst, anger, sleeplessless, the joys and delights of 12 weeks of AC and now week 9 into the Paclitaxel and Herceptin cocktail...and the bilateral mastectomy with full node clearance ever closer on the horizon...well my glass is now full. The meniscus is bulging. Some twit comes and drops in 1ml, never mind 5ml...sets the water overflowing and I turn into a drooling idiot. I just lose my mind (what's left of it), and my language is appalling!! I'm not even sure if it is anatomically possible for these miscreants to do what I rage that they should!! Eventually I calm down, but gee whizz why indeed am I so grumpy? Why the heck not?

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Zoffiel
Member
9 years ago
You can be an angry bitch. Really, you can. The little voice is the thing that will make you feel like shit if you let the bitch off the lead and she bites someone she shouldn't. You're the only one who knows how that will turn out.
Some people need a good roasting on occasions. I certainly do. It's all about context and perspective.
kayvie
Member
9 years ago
Hi Cate and adean
Agree that that is in my head too!
Personally I feel that this whole BC thing can change your tolerance for things - after all we have all been through - diagnosis, treatment, side effects, menopause, etc.......and although here on this site we get it often others don't. I find at times my tolerance for things is not as it once was and that is ok - I remind myself of this and try to see the situation making me angry from other's point of view before I let the bitch loose!!! Doesn' t always work though :#
adean
Member
9 years ago
Lol thats in all our heads!

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