omg @"Ally Jay" that is exactly it........... Look, I feel a bit like I am being bitchy even thinking WTF?? & really I coped really really well with chemo etc & kept working right thru & in all likelyhood would have politely declined any assistance offers from Mum but geez....... Im a bit bummed now that there were none & Sarah is irresponsible & has been her whole 48 years, & she jumps on a plane & flies up there to help......... & the funny thing is I hadnt even thought about any of this before the 'Sarah Saga' as I call it...