Cate, Certainly not the universe we live in...that's for sure!! You have every right to be spewing. It seems always to be that way in this (sometimes occasionally, sometimes always) crappy deal of the Cosmic Cards that we're dealt with. Some always seem to land with their bum in the butter, or at least have someone to always bail them out (sometimes literally, and also figuratively), which, of course enables these users to keep on with their disfunctional behaviour. That sucks!! It's often the case that the one offspring that does the right things, and is a giver and a productive member of society, who looks after themselves and is a potitive plus in the world, gets overlooked and taken for granted. The takers and the squeaky wheel, on the other hand, get liberal doses of the Good Oil.... over and over again. Such is life...