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What would you do if you were me?
Hello everyone, I have a big decision to make and need to get some different takes on it. This is my basic situation in dot point form: New primary dx. of Stage 2b ER+ PR+ HER2- right sided IDC w...
I am SO sorry to hear of all you've been thru Summer_Prevails xx. My deepest condolences on the passing of your mother xx. Caring for her in her final months would have been very hard and the associated grief with her loss is just devastating. (I lost my husband to cancer 4 years ago, having cared for him on my own since his first diagnosis & then the final 2 years after diagnosed terminal. I am still grieving xx) BUT - He/we also had 10 fantastic years prior to the Stage 4 diagnosis (after his first lot of chemo.)
We have Carer's Corner private group, if you'd like to join & have a chat with those who know what you've been thru xx. You are now caring for yourself too xx
Group: Carers corner | BCNA Online Network
Also consider chatting with the Helpline on Mon (1800 500 258) for a confidential chat about 'things' xx. Do you have a counsellor available to you? You can also call the Cancer Council https://www.cancercouncil.com.au/get-support/cancer-counselling/#connect
That is a REALLY tough call - do I or don't I do the chemo again? Only you can make that call - BUT ..... you are still a YOUNG WOMAN and I am sure there are things that you would like to do. Maybe, do a road trip & catch up with your buddies in the other states after you've sorted your Mum's estate ....
Do you think your reluctance to go ahead with treatment may relate to you looking after your Mum? If you were a lot older, I'd probably say that quality IS better than quantity ...
Personally I'd be leaning towards having the treatment - can you get a 2nd opinion from another Onc, or are you 100% happy with your current Onc? Remember, she is saying what she believes is in your best interests xx
I don't envy you your decision making .... take care & all the best xx