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sandycee
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14 years ago

Wanting "normal" too quickly

Hi everyone

It has been a long 3 weeks since my surgery and my partner and some friends are wrapping me in cotton wool not letting me do things I am used to doing.

I know I have my limitations - can't drive yet,and can't lift too heavy items. So I only lift light ones and do what I can.

It frustrates me that I can't do what I used to do and people are telling me "it will happen - your body needs to heal" For me this is all taking too long.

Even the folds under my arm, and chest area are still there and feeling numb, achy and sore. Is this normal? I mean time-wise? HOw long does it take for all of this to get back to normal?

I am only just being able to put on a firmer singlet and wear a long sleeve spencer AND also put on a jumper!! Than in itself is quite an achievement if I can manage it on my own. Otherwise it has been my pretty jama tops that I've been wearing as "shirts" cos they do up in the front.

Oh dear, every week is a new challenge.

  • w_w_w_dette's avatar
    w_w_w_dette
    Member
    14 years ago

    Hi Sandy

    I hear you - I know I was almost at breaking point between weeks 3 and 4! "Excuse me if I'm allowed to drive why can't I dress myself in reasonable fashion and move my arm a bit???", waiting to see oncologist, etc. it certainly wasn't happening fast enough. My saving grace with dressing was the couple of half button t-shirts I found at Kmart and the front zip fleecies that my daughter found for me - they were either being worn or in the wash!!!

    Then suddenly it was almost as if - have chemo and radiation plan, am driving, getting to physio - realised I had much increased movement and the pain was minimal!!  

    So as much as you might not want to hear it Sandy - it will happen!!!

    Thinking of you, Dette xxx

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    sandycee
    Member
    14 years ago

    My eyes are bigger than  my tummy and I have long been accused of trying to do more than I can handle.

    Yeah, s'pose I will have to deflate my ego some and take it easy for a change, huh?

    Again, thanks for the advice

     

    xx

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    sandycee
    Member
    14 years ago

    My eyes are bigger than  my tummy and I have long been accused of trying to do more than I can handle.

    Yeah, s'pose I will have to deflate my ego some and take it easy for a change, huh?

    Again, thanks for the advice

     

    xx

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    Leonie_Moore
    Member
    14 years ago

    I was told long ago that God only gives us what He knows we can handle.  It has helped me when times get too tough. XLeonie

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    Leonie_Moore
    Member
    14 years ago

    I was told long ago that God only gives us what He knows we can handle.  It has helped me when times get too tough. XLeonie