@FLClover Thanks for your story. It's interesting to see your reasoning and I will definitely be having a good chat with my medical oncologist about the reasoning behind the chemo recommendation and also the hormone therapy which I will inevitably be having.
I think the grade 3 is a huge factor in the advice for me to have it and that's something that has started swaying me. At my first scans and biopsy, it was only a small lump. By the time I had my surgery 4 weeks later, it had pretty much quadrupled in size (it was actually 2 that were kind of fused together so classed as one) and though not found to be anywhere else, I had a small margin on one side so still chance some were missed.
I definitely won't do anything I'm not comfortable with, it's a big decision and I want to make sure I'm doing what's right for me to help me stay as healthy as possible for as long as possible.