Second time around

I can relate to the need for calm and quiet, the short term memory problems and the foggy brain. I also have trouble concentrating. I think most of these effects for me are probably related to the stress and shock of diagnosis and treatment. The world looks different and I feel different. I am lucky that my immediate family understand but I do feel stressed when others don't understand and their comments can upset me. I felt a need to change my life after diagnosis and treatment. I figure that something or more likely some combination of things led to me getting cancer so I have set about changing what I can. I eat much healthier than before, exercise a lot (which helps with the stress) and am gradually learning to worry less about what others think (this is hard to change but I'm getting better at it). I know that looking after myself is important so I have learnt to put my needs up there with the other priorities in life. I figure I will be no good to anyone if I don't. Is there anyway you can change your work situation to make it less tiring? I had a single mastectomy and have not had reconstruction. I too would find that overwhelming to put myself through at the moment. I actually feel ok wearing a prosthesis and have some nice outfits that I feel good in. Do you have a friend or family member who could take you shopping for a couple of outfits that you could feel good wearing. Sometimes making small changes gradually helps us to feel better about things. I think what you are feeling is very normal for 'us' and we need to go gentle on ourselves. I like the idea of treating ourselves as we would a good friend or close family member. This network is a great place to share your worries and find that you are not alone. Please keep in touch. We can all help each other to a happier, healthier future. Take care. Deanne xxx